Because I have terrible follow-through, I loathe making resolutions. However, at the beginning of the year, I set a few goals for myself inspired by my word of the year L I G H T. The end of the year is approaching at breakneck speed and I have to say that I’m pretty proud of the things I manage to do this year. I’m sure at the end of the year I’ll do a post on everything but I want to talk about one thing, the one thing that terrified more than anything else.
If you know me in real life or have been a blog reader from way back you know that Rowan’s birth was extremely complicated. I won’t go into a great amount of detail but both of us were extremely lucky that we survived. Because of that trauma, I became obsessed with figuring out why. Why did a healthy 40-year-old woman with excellent medical care come minutes away from dying while giving birth? The more I read, the angrier I became. My experience was not an anomaly. It was becoming the norm.
A few years after my son was born, my oldest daughter and her husband announced they were pregnant. I was so excited for them! But, I was also terrified! I didn’t want my kid to go through any of the things I did when I had her little brother. I was humbled when they asked me to be with them through labor and delivery. I got to hold my daughter’s hands, rub her back, talk her through her anxiety and look on in awe as she summoned all of her strength to give birth. It was one of the most beautiful moments in my life.
It also sparked an idea. I can do this. I can work with black women in a tangible way to make sure they have great birthing experiences and safe and healthy labor.
I am so proud and nervous to say that I’ve started my journey to becoming a Maternal Support Practitioner, otherwise known as a doula, and a childbirth educator!
I’m terrified but I also believe that everything in my life has brought me to this point. I want to be proactive in helping black and brown women have healthy pregnancies and babies.
Here I am moving into the next season of my life and I couldn’t be happier!